Years ago, as a young mom with a couple of young babies, I was really floundering. I had some ideas about what I didn’t want to do, but really didn’t know what TO DO. I had dreams for my family… I kind of knew where I wanted to go, but I really had no idea how to get there. Can you relate? It was like trying to build my house on shifting sand. It didn’t take much of a storm to make the whole thing really shaky.
Then I met Jesus, and some of His friends… with small kids. But what helped most of all is that I also met several “older” women who could really give me some perspective. Soon I had four babies 5 years old and under… and I was drowning! These older women never condemned, but they encouraged me… as a mom and as a new believer. We prayed together. We talked. We laughed and we cried. And we all learned and grew in our faith.
I really don’t know if I would have survived without them.
When I looked at other women, so often I saw them as “having it all together” … unless maybe their child was throwing a tantrum. Then I thought they must be doing something wrong! Children were never to act that way! And since mine sometimes threw tantrums… and me too sometimes… I was definitely doing a lot wrong, too. I watched other people, looked at their homes … and their marriages … and their lives … and I never measured up. I’d come away with a new resolve to “do it all better.” It was exhausting and I felt so defeated.
What I’ve learned is that we are all on a journey. No one has arrived… except Jesus! I am now older than my “older women friends” from years ago. And I definitely haven’t arrived yet! I have learned some things along the way – and I’m still learning. But Jesus has been … and always will be … faithful. He put me in the right place … at the right time … with the right people. Sometimes I learn what to do … sometimes I learn what NOT to do, but He has graciously put people in my life to help … and encourage … and guide.
I still have friends like that… some older … some younger. And we are never too old to need them.
My hope and prayer is that we can be friends that laugh, cry, and grow closer to Jesus together.